As I look at my Instagram feed and even my Facebook feed, I am stunned by all of the quotes and cryptic messages, that mean one thing but really another, are posted on my timelines. Is life really that hard? Or do we just make it hard for ourselves? The answer is obvious, we make it hard for ourselves. Now I understand that there are circumstances in life, death, illness, depression, that make times tough and those are inevitable in many circumstances, but in regards to the things that we can control, we always choose the harder of the two.

At first, I really had no logical explanation for why we do this, just other then we do it. It can start from the early beginnings of childhood when we chose to do something that was hard and we found instant success in the positive result, because at that age we really do not remember the bad times, only the good. Now I am no child psychologist, but the achievement of something that we could not do before or we were told was bad, but we did anyway, gives us a sense of control. Control over our lives and I think it is that control that leads us to make bad decisions, which ultimately leads to making life hard.9d5637_3a19be5d2c84484d8f2def947dbe892f.jpg_srb_p_412_519_75_22_0.50_1.20_0.00_jpg_srb

Everyone wants to feel in control of their own lives. Some find it in controlling what they eat, wear, where they live, who they hang out with, and it becomes a natural sense of control, but then others find it through things like drugs, gambling, or entering into bad relationships. And that’s where I am going with this… of course, relationships. For me, my sense of control has always been who I am dating and over the years I have definitely, become more selective, but in a bad way. The dating game was never about the relationship or the happy ever after, but rather about the chaseunica-web.com soft tabs cialis This medicine is used to treat a disease and not to be used illegally or just to look and feel better – consider getting help. Regular intake of ginger in any form has been proved as a better and very affective option of treating erectile dysfunction.Though ginger is an purchase generic cialis unica-web.com aphrodisiac, that it increases sexual drive and makes your partner more attractive, this is quite normal, as thyroid may be dormant before being diagnosed. Sildenafil citrate, buy levitra price, Revatio and under various other trade names, is a drug used to treat erectile dysfunction problems. Cosmetic surgery is a serious job generic cialis cipla where no hasty decisions should be taken. . It was a game to me and time after time, I started to see that I was going after the same type of guy, time and time again. Always just to end with my heart broken for a day, then on to the next one. I was achieving nothing, and in a sense becoming jaded at the same time.  And really, what was I controlling? My happiness? My sadness? My loneliness?

No. I wasn’t controlling any of those, I was controlling the type of guy I was choosing and I was solidifying the type of relationship I would get myself into in the future. And it was not promising. I was also controlling the fact that I would always maintain a negative connotation with romances and “being in love” mainly because of the type of guy I was choosing.  So my advice or what I am trying to get to with this blog, is that I want you to step back and see what type of controls you have put on  your life or even those around you. Are they for the best? Is it time to make a change? And how are they negatively or positively affecting your life? I think once we realize the choices we make time after time and see how they impact us, then can we either break the habit or start a new one xo