2014 was a crazy year. I reviewed that stupid photo collage on Facebook and mine did not even to begin to compare to the “behind the scene” moments that went on AKA good luck finding mine, it doesn’t exist. I am a very private person. When I begin talking to guy and hanging out with them on a regular basis, it is about 2-3 months in before I even mention it to my friends and family. So I am not here to blog about the drama and “never before seen” moments that happened, but rather I want to generalize my 2014 lessons learned from the drama. Lessons learned are lessons that should never be repeated… or should they?
Go with your gut – This is a lesson I will continue to learn and a lesson that will continually teach me over and over again. I have not mastered yet, but I am on the right path towards it. My gut is my sixth instinct and it is always right. This not only applies to men, relationships, shopping purchases, career but pretty much to anything and everything in life. Trust your gut, there is usually a valid reason to why a thought flies across your mind when your first meet someone or take action.
Don’t force romance – I will be the first to admit that when I get lonely, I scroll through Facebook and my phone seeing who I can strike a conversation. But this year, I stopped doing that and focused solely on introducing new people into my life and never recycling used trash. If I meet someone new, I try not to jump to conclusions and focus on if this will go anywhere. Rather, I get to know the person for who they are, what they stand behind and if there is any form of connection between us. I can usually determine within 15-20 minutes if I feel a romance. I call it a gift LOL
Keep your friends circle small – This year, as I moved back to New York, I found out who my true friends were. When I first moved back I wanted to reconnect with everyone, but I quickly found that I had been gone for almost 4 years and people change. I have a my three girlfriends that I know would do anything for me and that I can always count on. I have reconnected with some people, that I could not see or ever imagine not having in my life. If you can count your best friends on one hand, consider yourself blessed. Those are the people who are there ride or die.
Live within your budget – I struggled with this in 2014, mainly because I was unemployed for the first 6 months of 2014, I made a huge move back to NY, and just made a lot of not smart purchases. I would classify 2013 and 2014 as a year where I lived completely outside my means of living. I was in a 3 bedroom apartment.. Why? I drove a brand new Mercedes Benz… still do lol and my dog was in daycare more than she was home… obviously not ready to have children. One of my biggest take aways from 2014 was that money really buys nothing. I never felt loved or amazing because I had a new Louis Vuitton purse, rather I felt dumb for spending such hard earned money on something so irrational. Now, I am not saying that I won’t rock my designer clothing or will refuse to buy a LV or Fendi purse, I will obviously still do that. But I will do it when I earn it and when I feel I have the capability to blow some cash.The free viagra prescription man also loses his confidence as well as dignity with soft reproductive organ and disability to satisfy his partner. The best time to take where buy viagra is before the dinner and other thing is 30 minutes to 4 hours before sexual activity. viagra is not supposed to be taken care of the medicine that you are purchasing a good quality cheap viagra. If you too are troubled because of inability to undergo penile erection as an example, this will lead to depression and pill sildenafil many psychological disorders. The frequency of administering these medicines is the same, they may vary in terms of time they take to show an effect and for how long and in what cialis for women dosage.
Be Blunt – I can ask any of my friends to describe me and more than likely all of them would say blunt or straight to the point. I have learned over the years, time is precious and not something that should be wasted. If I want an answer to a question, I refuse to dance around the subject asking people about their family or their lives. I want an answer and I want it now. I have learned that being blunt the wrong way can label you as a bitch, but being blunt the sincere way labels you as a go-getter or a woman who knows what she wants. Go figure?
If it’s out of your control, it is what it is – I have learned this year to let go of things that I can no longer control. The way I look at it is, if you can take control over the situation, then the results are in your hands. If you cannot control the situation, well then it is what it is and whatever happens, well then you have a decision to make. The way I look at situations is, you always have the power to make a choice. I plan to carry that into 2015 and throughout my life.
In conclusion for 2014, some lessons have repeated themselves because nothing really ever goes away until it has taught you a lesson that you are suppose to learn. I wish you a happy, healthy and powerful 2015 xo
